Couples Counsel
Threshold Counselling for
Co-Wanderers, Wonderers
& Edge-Walkers
Common Couples Thresholds
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The Threshold of Commitment
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The Threshold of Shared Vision and Purpose
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The Threshold of Intimacy and Desire
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The Threshold of Vulnerability
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The Threshold of Conflict
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The Threshold of Reconnection
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The Threshold of Personal Transformation
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The Threshold of Parenting
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The Threshold of Transition and Loss
The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.
— Esther Perel
The Pillars of Coyotei Couples Counsel
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Shared Vision & Values
A thriving relationship is guided by a shared vision and core values that act as a compass for your journey together. In our work, we’ll uncover the deeper meaning of your partnership, bringing clarity to the values you both hold dear and the dreams that inspire you. By weaving these threads into a shared narrative, you’ll cultivate a mutual orientation rooted in collaborative growth, evolution, and enduring connection.
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Relational Intelligence
Every thriving partnership flourishes through the ability to understand and respond to each other’s needs, emotions, and perspectives. In our work, we’ll explore how to deepen your relational intelligence, tuning into the subtle dynamics between you. By cultivating empathy and emotional awareness, you’ll strengthen your connection and navigate inevitable challenges with clarity, creativity, and compassion.
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Collaborative Communication
Effective communication is key to any relationship. In our work together, we’ll explore how to create a sanctuary for open, honest dialogue where both voices are truly heard. We’ll focus on expressing needs and concerns with clarity, while actively listening with empathy, curiosity, and respect. This practice fosters deeper connection, resolves misunderstandings with ease, and cultivates mutual understanding.
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Conflict into Connection
Conflict offers a powerful opportunity for growth. In our work, we’ll shift how you approach conflict, transforming it from a source of separation into a catalyst for deeper connection. You’ll learn to embrace conflict as a doorway to intimacy, where both voices are heard, and resolutions are co-created. By approaching challenges with curiosity, creativity, and respect, you’ll foster resilience, trust, and a stronger bond.
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Eros & Desire
Eros and desire are the vital forces that fuel passion and intimacy. In our work, we’ll explore how to nurture and rekindle desire, creating space for vulnerability, playful exploration, and open expression. By honouring the sacred energy of Eros and infusing playfulness, you’ll deepen your emotional and physical connection, cultivating a vibrant, passionate partnership built on mutual respect, sensitivity, and discovery.
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Relational Renewal
Every relationship goes through cycles of growth and change, requiring moments of renewal. In our work, we’ll explore how to invite fresh energy, deeper connection, and renewed purpose into your partnership. You’ll learn to navigate transitions—whether life stages, personal growth, or shared challenges—and turn them into opportunities for reinvention. By creating space for reflection and nourishment, you’ll cultivate a relationship rooted in vitality, joy, and resilience.
Possible Pathways
Couples-Only Sessions
For couples who wish to focus exclusively on their relationship dynamics, I offer 4-session and 8-session commitment packages.
4-Session Commitment: $600
8-Session Commitment: $1,000
Each session is a 75-minute deep dive into your partnership, combining conversation, reflection, and practical tools tailored to your unique situation.
Couples & Individual Sessions
For those seeking both couples and individual support, I also offer 4-session and 8-session packages. For example, with a 4-session commitment, each partner will receive 4 individual sessions and 4 couples sessions, totalling 12 sessions—4 sessions dedicated to your partnership and 8 individual sessions (4 for each partner).
4-Session Commitment: $1,400
8-Session Commitment: $2, 600
This approach supports both relational and personal growth, offering a balanced pathway for couples looking to nurture their partnership while also focusing on individual transformation.
What To Expect In A Couples Session
Couples counselling is a collaborative process where both partners actively engage in the journey toward deeper understanding, healing, and growth. In a joint session, you can expect:
Initial Assessment: We begin by understanding the unique dynamics of your relationship and exploring the challenges and thresholds you're navigating.
Deep Listening & Exploration: Through open dialogue, we uncover underlying needs, fears, and desires, creating space to explore the heart of the matter.
Skill-Building & Practices: We work together to develop practical tools and exercises that improve communication, strengthen emotional bonds, and provide strategies to navigate challenges.
Reflections & Resources: After each session, you’ll receive reflections and resources designed to deepen your understanding, support ongoing growth, and help you implement new practices at home.
The goal is to help both partners feel heard, valued, and understood while offering guidance that deepens your connection amidst whatever thresholds you face together.
What To Expect In An Individual Session
In individual sessions, the focus is on your personal growth, often in the context of your relationship. These sessions are an opportunity for self-reflection, exploration, and developing insights that support both your individual journey and your partnership. In a single session, you can expect:
Personal Exploration: Identifying your current thoughts, feelings, and challenges, particularly as they relate to your relationship. This is a space to explore your personal role in the dynamics of your partnership.
Deep Listening & Reflection: Through deep listening, we examine your individual experiences, needs, and desires, uncovering insights that help clarify your personal growth and your connection to the relationship.
Practical Tools & Strategies: Developing tools and strategies that support your personal well-being, which in turn can enhance your role in the relationship and help navigate challenges effectively.
Integration & Support: Discussing how to integrate new insights and practices into your daily life, with resources and reflections that support both your individual development and your relational growth.
Individual sessions offer an opportunity to focus on your own journey, cultivating self-awareness and practices that contribute to both your personal and relational well-being.
TESTIMONIALS
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Tei has been a real game-changer for us. His way of helping is like having a reliable soul-friend to guide us through tough times. With his help, we've learned how to talk better (non-violently, and more lovingly), navigate arguments and challenges with respect, and feel closer/more intimate than ever. Tei creates a comfy space where we can open up about our worries without feeling judged. He's helped us fix old issues and make our bond even stronger. Thanks to him, we're rebuilding trust and feeling the love all over again. We owe him big time for being such a solid ground for our relationship during very difficult times.
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After the loss of our baby, we were devastated and unsure how to navigate the grief together. We knew we needed support, but we didn’t know where to start. Coming to Tei’s sessions was a turning point for us. He helped us create a safe space to grieve, both as individuals and as a couple. Through the process, we learned how to support each other in our unique ways while still coming together in our shared pain. The tools and practices Tei provided helped us find small steps toward healing. We’re still grieving, but we now have a stronger bond and a better understanding of how to walk this painful path together.
— Micah & Ben -
We were at a crossroads in our relationship, unsure of how to move forward. Tei's approach made us feel heard and valued from the start. The sessions were a mix of reflection, skill-building, and actionable strategies. We left each session with a sense of direction and practical tools to apply at home. We're so grateful for the insights Tei offered, which helped us rebuild trust and rekindle intimacy.
— Emma & Noah
We are most alive when we are in love.
— John Updike